I read a wonderful article by Liz Ryan where she discusses the type of individual employers love to hire. My favorite sentences in the article were:
“Successful job-seekers are the people who believe that if this particular opportunity isn’t the right one, there’ll be another opportunity around the corner. They trust in themselves and the universe to get them into the right spot”.
2014 has been a phenomenal year for family and friends looking for jobs. I have been psyched coaching individuals and hearing their successes. When I coach job seekers, I share what I do. My starting point is focused on those two sentences. The concept is a mental framework for me as I keep myself grounded as to what is important to me – having a quality life and earning money to support that objective.
About a month ago, I had the opportunity to meet a man who traveled five hours one Sunday morning to get to the church that I attend. My pastor gave him the opportunity to share a few words, and what he said created a paradigm shift in my philosophy on careers. I’ve been reluctant to use that word for over 14 years. What happened 14 years ago? It’s when I started to think of my mission and purpose in life versus what type of work I need to do to earn a living. Having that thought process can put life’s decisions in a different perspective.
When the gentlemen got up to speak, he shared how he just wanted to come down and visit with us for the day. I remembered looking at him observing how humble, happy and content he looked. He started to share stories about what he was doing and what his future plans were. He had an inspiring story, but there was a revelation that will probably stick with me the rest of my life.
Up to this point, I had a very simplistic plan for my goals. Every January 1, I sit down and make a list of the projects that I want to accomplish for the year. Then, I determine how much income I will need to make those things happen. My final step is to calculate what I must do to make that amount of income come in. I thought I had a very simplistic plan for determining my goals and objectives for the year.
However, I love what this gentleman had to say about how he determines what he does to keep focused on what is important in life. He knows that his heart’s desire is to go to a specific country and spend two months out of the year helping the people in that community. It’s almost like mission work. What’s the difference? He is not sponsored by anyone and he determines what he wants to do. How does he make it happen? He spends the other 10 months of the year cleaning windows to generate enough income to support his mission in life – spending two months out of a year making a different in a community abroad!
Your plans may not be as strategic as our plans are, but the key is that you have a plan before you start to “search”. If you want to be successful, you have to believe in you and your ability to discern what your purpose in life is. Don’t let anyone tell you what it should be. You explore and find out for yourself. You will know what sparks that passion in your heart. If possible, think in terms of what types of tasks inspire you to be the best that you can be versus what type of job you need to make ends meet. Sometimes, the two are mutually exclusive, BUT sometimes, they aren’t. You decide!
If you decide that it is time to look for another job, consider following the suggestions listed below:
- If possible, do not look for a job when you need it, look for one when you are feeling good about what you are currently doing.
It is the same concept of why you shouldn’t go to the grocery store to shop when you are hungry. We tend to want and get things that we don’t necessary need when we are experiencing some type of emotional craving. I, personally, believe the best time to look at jobs is when you are on top of your game and at the height of your career/tenure. What better time to assess your worth than when you are at peak performance. Your self-confidence is strong and emotions tend to be balanced.
- Assess your skill set and know your worth.
Know who you are and what you bring to the table. Be able to articulate how you can make a difference and add value to an organization. Prepare that short elevator speech that will serve as your signature introduction. Make sure you can differentiate yourself from the others in the pack.
- Do not allow anyone to talk you into settling for less.
Some hiring managers remind you of used car salesmen. Their job is to get the best sale, and this objective is not always in your favor. Stay true to your dreams and remember the first two bullet points. There is a right place and right time for everything. Be willing to step back and walk away if your objectives are not being met.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others.
Every person is unique and you have your own destiny. How you finish your race will be different from how I end mine. Yet, we are both striving to be the best at whatever we put our hands to. It’s okay to bounce ideas off of family and friends, but understand that the final decision is yours and you are the one that has to live with the outcome.
- Buy into your own destiny.
If you don’t feel good about you and where you want to go, why should anyone else? You are responsible for articulating your hopes, dreams and aspirations.